I have been observing this young couple in church since the Sunday after their wedding. They are always on suit-and-suit (clothes made from the same fabric). Over the years, they have had three children and they still wear suit-and-suit to church every Sunday. I saw them again last Sunday and it just occurred to me that this suit-and-suit might be one of their customized conflict resolution mechanisms (personal ways of resolving differences).
The last time I itemized these mechanisms in this column, I did not include suit-and-suit. But I strongly feel it has to be. Imagine not being on talking terms with your spouse on a Sunday; how do you agree on what to wear, if you are into suit-and-suit? It has to be agreed somehow; there lies suit-and-suit as a conflict resolution mechanism. Ironically, suit-and-suit can also cause a quarrel.
