Don’t get stunted in a toil for one to love you. Don’t kill yourself fighting to win one who walked out on you back. Don’t sit and sniff in that corner all day and all night in the wasteful fantasy of the memory of that friend or spouse of yours who had just taken a new turn from your axis.
How long will you wonder how, where and what you did wrong? No! You don’t have to pause life because of someone who had long moved on and who is apparently oblivious and remorseless of how you have almost allowed yourself to decay in ineffectual wait and regret.
You have to move on. The truth and the cause of such a feeling of emptiness are when you lose the sight of who you are. That when you know how valuable a piece of diamond could be if all diamonds were to be lost in the world, then you would think differently. You are a single diamond. There is no copy of you the world over.
Let him go. Let her walk away and get lost for all you care. The fact is that they could not cope with your glory. Sadly (for them, though), they just felt unworthy of your company and despite you loved them so deeply. Like Judas in the Bible who saw himself unworthy to live after betraying Christ, his master.
So dear, it’s their loss and your victory. It’s a triumph you should invite me over to celebrate with you. So, sit up. Gird yourself up. Break out of that abstract chain and lock of your mind. Think differently.
Gilbert Henry Gedge wrote: “We are what we think. How often people forget or are ignorant of that, and consequently neglect to watch their thoughts. Frequently, we hear people say they cannot change their nature, and yet by changing their thinking they can become completely new beings.”
Set for yourself new goals daily and strive to attain them. This commitment and sense of duty will help you focus on the future than dwelling in the past. Step out the door and get a life.
Go out there and see that there is an expanse of the world around you, too large to be pocketed in the fancy of one fellow whom a hundred billion others do not know even exists or live completely happy without. So, go out there now and watch the brilliance of the sunrays and the beauty of the sheen flowers in the garden. And when you are back I bet you will completely be a better you.
Obinna Oke is a Nigerian writer, activist, social critic and ideologue. Follow him on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram ID @ Obinna Oke
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