Relationship: Why do spouse cheat?

Hearing of cheats and unfaithful lovers is now so common that some people do not even turn up their noses in disgust anymore.

We all must have heard one or two people dismissing cheating with a wave of the hand, saying stuff like ‘cheating is a normal thing’ or ‘all men/women cheat.’

Such statements are based on the regularity with which they have encountered, experienced and heard of cases of infidelity.

No matter how rampant cheating and unfaithfulness has become, though, it remains totally wrong.

Even if it seems to be a behavioural pattern that has seeped deep into the [im]moral fabric of the society, it is still supposed to be spat upon.

Yeah. Cheating is actually that bad.

A lot of bad words could be used in describing people that cheat and no matter how nasty or extreme your choice of derogatory word is, you are free to pop them as far as I am concerened.

However, let’s for one second cut them some slack in a bid to understand why they do it.

playSome people just have commitment issues (PsychicLily)

Why do people cheat? Does it appeal to them to just intentionally mess up the emotions and lives of others, or do some uncontrollable factors play a part too?

Below are few reasons which generally influence people to cheat.

Commitment issues

Some people just never seem to get the concept of exclusiveness of relationships.

Curiosity

For the wild at heart, there’s always a willingness to explore and see what else they might be missing by being stuck to just one partner.

Need for attention

Sometimes, people are moved into infidelity by a lack of attention on their partner’s part.

playDisappointment in relationships also contributes to the problem (DailyMail)

Disappointment

The expectation in their mind before entering the relationship was not met, leading to a search for that thing at some other location.

Sexual dissatisfaction

In this context, we are talking about situations where a healthy appetite for sex is not ever satisfied.

This is one of the biggest reasons why people shirk their duty to be faithful and go after other people.

Sex addiction

Cheating for some people is as a result of their limitless desire for sexual activity and gratification which, most times, their partners can’t keep up with.

playFor some, addiction to sex is the problem behind their unfaithfulness (HuffingtonPost)

Revenge

Some other persons cheat in a bid to get back at their disloyal, unfaithful partners.

In an instance such as this, the line between what is right and what is not becomes blurred.

However, two wrongs don’t ever make a right and cheating remains cheating no matter how ‘valid’ or ‘justifiable’ your reason is.

Apart from the above reasons listed, people also cheat because there is a lack of appreciation, lack of intimacy, and insecurity.

In conclusion, the reasons listed, as already pointed out, are not to justify the act of cheating itself, but to help partners realise what the reason behind cheating is.

This, we hope, will assist you take a closer look at your relationship, and look for ways to ensure that you or your partner never fall into these things that might tempt you to cheat and ruin the beautiful relationship you’ve got going.