Relationship Problems: 7 signs that you are dating a narcissist

Narcissism is a pattern of abnormal behaviour, which features exaggerated feelings of self-importance and an excessive need among others.

If your boyfriend shows the following traits constantly, chances are that he suffers from this undesirable mental configuration.

1. Self-Absorbed

Self-love is advised, of course, but there is a limit to even that.

If your boyfriend is all about himself and gives no care in the world about how you feel about anything, you may have a problem on your hands.

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It could pass as selfishness, or narcissism. Whichever way, it’s a worrisome trait.

2. Keeps too many secrets

if your mate is tight-lipped about just about everything, and shares almost nothing with you, no matter how insignificant, he might just be a narcissist.

3. Poker face

The saying goes that even the hardest men become babies around women they genuinely love.

If your partner’s countenance is hardly readable, especially with you, this trait has been associated with narcissism.

4. Very sweet and charming… initially

Narcissists, for all their bad traits, usually have a smooth way of charming the pants off even the most difficult people.

So, a narcissist will be all sugar honey and butter until they’ve had just enough of what interests them about you.

Because they get bored easily, expect all that charm to dry up pretty soon. They’re done.

playNarcissists are very good charmers and women are easily drawn to them (Wordpress)

5. Chronic womanizers

Their extreme ability to switch their charm on and off at will, coupled by the fact that they get easily bored in relationships, makes them serial womanizers.

It comes naturally, and women are often easily drawn to them; so don't be shocked if you get dumped somewhere along the line.

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6. Totally unreliable

They are all about themselves, so regardless of any agreement made with you, if something else comes up which benefits them, they won’t think twice about throwing you under the bus.

Being in a relationship requires you to sacrifice and go out of your way sometimes to bring comfort to your partner. Narcissists are not capable of this.

7. Avoids conflict

Remember they are secretive. Therefore, any conflict or drama which has the tendency of unveiling the secrets and unravelling them is well avoided.

Note however, that not everyone who has one or two of these traits is a narcissist.

A narcissist has elements of everything listed here though.