Your Clutters Sent Your Spouse To The Next Room By Elizabeth Badejo

Last week, I mentioned some of the possible reasons more now couples sleep in separate rooms and why it may be necessary in some marriages as long as there is an understanding and it’s in the interest of the couple. In the course of my interactions with some ardent readers during the week, mostly men to be precise; I discovered that some women’s bad habits have deliberately forced their husbands to sleep in separate rooms.

Most women have more material possessions than their spouse from time immemorial and as they settle into their marital homes, they continue to possess more through the acts of buying wanted and unwanted clothes, shoes, gifts, bits and pieces, which can sometimes become clutters around the bedroom.

Throw out the clutters

If you are guilty of cluttering your bedrooms and never thought this may be the reason your spouse sleeps in the guest’s room, you may be inviting problems into your marriage if you continue to take your spouse for granted. If you truly understand that the bedroom belongs to both of you, you have to begin to take responsibilities today and start looking for ways to ‘de-clutter’ it.

The most effective way to do this is when your spouse is on a short trip away from home, you can get the kids or a few friends to help if you cannot do it alone; it is more honorable to do it in his absence.

Make your room inviting

Your matrimonial bedroom should be a safe haven on earth for you and your spouse. Cluttering your bedroom with your unwanted clothes or personal items can become frustrating for your spouse and can also make it difficult for him to relax in the bedroom after a long day at work. Always make a conscious effort to have beautiful sets of bed spreads and other bedding accessories nicely laid on the bed at all times. Make it a romantic place where you can both experience sanity, a place of escape from the challenges outsides your home, a place to reignite and reconnect with each other.

Keep away distractions

When you consider the importance of television and other media communications in the home, you must also note that they can be distracting at homes especially the bedrooms. To effectively win your spouse back into your bedroom, you may need to remove some or all of these gadgets so that you can both engage in bedroom communications during bedtime.